Comments on: God and sex and teaching kids

By: Caroline Williams

Caroline Williams — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 20:39:00 +0000

Great infomation, love the comments, this subject is not for mother’s only to talk to their children, father’s need to talk with their children also, sure would like to see the father’s comments. 🙂

By: Jenn Metcalf Tousey

Jenn Metcalf Tousey — Fri, 24 Aug 2012 02:50:00 +0000

In my zeal yesterday I totally forgot to share one of my favorite resources! Cru Press (Campus Crusade) has two books for college-age people that are so, so good. These were paradigm-shifters for me as a speaker. “Fantasy” for girls and “Flesh” for guys. I used parts of these with 10th graders at my church as well. They cover lots of stuff (including pornography and the “m” word), but the soul-searing question they ask that completely changed how I approached sex talks with teens was this: “Do you value your pleasure above His glory?”

And for older teens (and grown-ups, for that matter) who are already dealing with sexual sin, John Piper gave a talk at Passion ’07 that is SO GOOD. “How to Deal With the Guilt of Sexual Failure for the Glory of Christ and His Global Cause.” It’s on iTunes and worth the $3.49.

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Thu, 23 Aug 2012 00:36:00 +0000

In reply to osterfay. I think it just depends on the age of the child. It would be way too much information for younger children. But teens, yes. I think those prayers for purity are definitely appropriate to pray with older kids -- especially if/when they seek us out for counsel.

By: osterfay

osterfay — Thu, 23 Aug 2012 00:09:00 +0000

Would the prayer of #5 above be both privately and with your children?

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Thu, 23 Aug 2012 00:03:00 +0000

In reply to Diana Brown.

Oh Diana, that. is. so. good! Seriously. Isn’t it amazing how even the “best” desires can become idols. I’ve experienced it too (particularly in my marriage). Such wise advise to all of us to be aware of *anything* — even honorable things — stealing our “worship.” You are a blessing!

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 23:51:00 +0000

In reply to Jenn Metcalf Tousey. Such great thoughts, Jenn. I love when you said that someone *is* going to be having regular conversations with them about sex. That is so true! I want them to know the difference between the world's voice and God's voice. And I also love your point about having small conversations over the course of their childhood rather than one "big talk." Thanks so much for commenting (soapbox or not). :)

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 23:48:00 +0000

In reply to Brooke McGlothlin. What a special moment, Brooke! (In a I-wish-I-didn't-have-to-have-this-special-moment type of moment.) You're such a great mom; I know because he came to you. ;) Blessings, friend.

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 23:46:00 +0000

In reply to Emily. Yes, believing. You always hold me accountable to the "believing." Love you, sweet sister-friend.

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 23:45:00 +0000

In reply to Elizabeth Tierney. Elizabeth, this can easily be one of my fears. I have to continually lay it before our God trusting that He will be forever faithful. (Thankful with you for your own personal healing!)

By: Diana Brown

Diana Brown — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 21:07:00 +0000

Great thoughts! I can very much relate to your hyper-sensitivity. Premarital sex permeated essentially every generation in our family. When our boys were young, that was “my thing.” I begged God to break the cycle so that our boys wouldn’t have to experience the consequences, etc. One day as I was driving & listening to Christian radio, the speaker – who was much further down the parenting road – shared having the same desires, but concluded with a warning. He essentially said, “The goal of “Christian parenting” is not to have a child walk down the aisle a virgin… but to have them walk down the aisle in love with Jesus. Some parents are MORE concerned with the moral purity of their children than their relationship with the Lord…”

Nailed!! The Holy Spirit clearly revealed that I had allowed my desire for their sexual purity to become an “idol,” and while it was – and is! – something I still pray for our boys about, it’s not the “goal” now, but a prayed for outcome of their relationship with Christ.

Thanks, Lara, for always challenging us to live out truth, and for keeping Jesus central in all things. Wish you had been in my life 25 years ago! 🙂