Comments on: God and sex and the single girl https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/ teaching women to think on true things Sun, 23 Dec 2012 14:47:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.1 By: Caryng2 https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2491 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 14:47:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2491 In reply to Beverley Bouchard.

Amen for MEN who are waiting.

]]> By: Beverley Bouchard https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2071 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 18:43:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2071 And….the single Christian men. My sons are both waiting and waiting and waiting….

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2070 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 13:32:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2070 In reply to Mary C.

Thank you for commenting, Mary. What a beautiful testimony. And I am certain you are not alone. Praying He continues to refresh and sustain you.

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2069 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 13:28:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2069 In reply to Kristina Tanner.

Oh girl, I can only imagine it is so difficult. The world all but screams at us about sex and beauty and worth; and nearly all of its messages land so far from God’s design and intention. Praying for you this morning, Kristina. You are His precious creation, crafted with purpose and gorgeous beauty. Press on, sweet sister.

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2068 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 13:26:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2068 In reply to Katrina.

You mean the angelic orchestra didn’t play on your wedding night?! Seriously. I love what you said. It is beautiful and messy and takes work and patience. And it isn’t the “magic bullet” of specialness. Thanks for your perspective. So good and needed.

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2067 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 13:24:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2067 In reply to Debby Webb.

Hi friend! I’ve missed you. And yes, “complex” is right. He’s so gracious and patient, but His ways are best. We miss so much when we try to make sex (and all of life) fit into our own agenda. Much love to you, sister.

]]> By: Mary C https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2066 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 13:21:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2066 As a never-been-married woman, this topic hits very close to home. I, too, have scars. I can only lament my decision to give away my purity far too young. I’m forgiven & restored, yes I believe that I am. And I love what you wrote about praying for my future husband and God preparing him as He is preparing me. I find strength in that prayer. As a daily sign to myself & to God, I wear a ring to remind me that my husband is waiting. I have a lot to lose if I slip and fall into the trappings of the world. This little ring has saved me on more than one occasion. Thank you for this article – it provided me with confirmation that I am, indeed, on the right path.

]]> By: Kristina Tanner https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2065 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 12:02:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2065 In reply to Katrina.

I love how you worded this! It’s so true! It is worth waiting for and yet it isn’t for use as the ‘magical specialness’ tool or to manipulate.

]]> By: Kristina Tanner https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2064 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 11:59:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2064 Lara, thanks for writing this. I’m single and divorced, but I have four kids so obviously I know about sex. Going from ‘sex is blessed’ to no more se has been difficult and trying and sometimes I feel like I’m back in high school where all we talked about was sex! Gah! But thank you for writing this and communicating truth. Have an awesome day.

Kristina

]]> By: Katrina https://tooverflowing.com/god-and-sex-and-the-single-girl/#comment-2063 Mon, 20 Aug 2012 11:28:00 +0000 http://ToOverflowing.com/?p=5653#comment-2063 I think the culture has done a great wrong to our single girls in its “teaching” about sex, but truthfully, I’m a little miffed at the church as well for giving the impression that those who wait would get the promised “magical specialness” and orchestral music on her wedding night. In both cases, we stress the wrong thing-a physical act that can be anything from super fun to downright gross. Just like every part of a relationship, the physical part takes time. I DID wait to have sex, and I’m glad I did. After 10 years of marriage, we have a great sex life (sorry, TMI). But as I told my 20 something cousin who is struggling to wait: sex is worth waiting for, AND it is also NOT WORTH not waiting for. (Read it again.) Sex just isn’t awesome enough to trade it for a closeness and intimacy that it won’t necessarily bring. Sex just isn’t satisfying enough to use it as a method for finding love and fulfillment. I think if the church would be a little more frank with gals, less worried about making it the “magic bullet” of specialness, and tell the truth about scars and other such bits of info, girls wouldn’t be so blinded by the cloud of raging hormones and misinformation.

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