Comments on: the effects of comparison and our only way out of its grip

By: how to move past a regret

how to move past a regret — Thu, 03 Apr 2014 10:50:35 +0000

[…] They came into the restaurant after us — young and firm and blond and carefree. And I had this momentary, subconscious jealousy creep up in me. It’s not that I want to be in college again — oh Lord Jesus, no thank you. I don’t even want long, blond hair. But I definitely had some twisted comparison thing going on in my spirit, which always and forever leads to poor choices. […]

By: Denyse

Denyse — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 01:05:00 +0000

I absolutely cannot get enough of this blog! Amazing stuff Lara and bloggerettes 🙂 Thank you for teaching me about ‘covetousness’ – it’s made me realise that I am sinning and need to repent. I am 31 and single so often get tempted to compare myself with my friends who are married with children (a dream of mine). I need to be constantly on guard to counteract such thoughts by reminding myself of God’s overwhelming grace and salvation. He has brought so much peace into my life which overrides any earlthly desires. Thank you Jesus!! Have an amazing day guys 😀

By: l a r a w i l l i a m s

l a r a w i l l i a m s — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 18:18:00 +0000

In reply to Rita. Ha. "Fair." Whenever my kids go down that road my husband always says, "The fair only comes to town once a year." If we had fair, we'd have what our sinful rebellious hearts deserve. Instead we get grace and mercy. May we remember. Thanks, Rita.

By: l a r a w i l l i a m s

l a r a w i l l i a m s — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 18:16:00 +0000

In reply to Margie. It really is powerful to speak blessing over others in the things we find ourselves tempted to "covet". Thanks for sharing, Margie.

By: l a r a w i l l i a m s

l a r a w i l l i a m s — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 18:15:00 +0000

In reply to Julia Stevens. Just calling it like it is, aren't you Julia?! (My toes hurt.) Yes, it's jealousy. And how ridiculous when we really think about it. Questioning God?! Who am I? He is faithful and good and His ways are always best. Oh and it's very possible I have that book on my bookshelf. Maybe I need to dust it off. ;) Blessings to you, Julia.

By: l a r a w i l l i a m s

l a r a w i l l i a m s — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 18:13:00 +0000

In reply to Lauren Cole. We all need reminding. Ugh. Recognize and replace the life-stealing thoughts -- only in the power of His Spirit under the banner of His grace. Blessings sister.

By: Rita

Rita — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 15:45:00 +0000

Love this – its a struggle I continually face. I know the moment I start thinking internally the words ‘its not fair’ that I need to readjust my thinking. One quote that pops to mind is ‘its not fair to compare’. Thanks for sharing this.

By: Margie

Margie — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 14:27:00 +0000

Thank you, it is wonderful to see others have this. I have learned to just say, I am glad it is their’s, It is beautiful but not me. I love my coziness, it is me. snuggle it and relaxing me.

By: Julia Stevens

Julia Stevens — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 14:25:00 +0000

For me, I have to call comparison “jealousy”…when I compare myself to others it’s usually because I want what they have – or I wish I were more “like them”. Then what is staring me in the face is the reality that I am questioning God and His provisions and activity in their lives – Eeekk! Out loud confession helps me…and then praise and gratitude to the Lord for what He has given to me. [A good book concerning this topic is “Choosing Gratitude” by Nancy Leigh DeMoss]

By: Lauren Cole

Lauren Cole — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 13:33:00 +0000

Oh goodness. Yes. So good to read this… Many times I find myself aware of the struggle but the default is to try to stop.. Just push it out of the mind. Not really an active replacing of the thought, though. I love this.. It’s not just stop! But stopping to remember the ridiculous grace that is already mine through Jesus and then rejoice! Give thanks. Remember beloved… A needed reminder this morning!