Comments on: the hover-mother syndrome https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/ teaching women to think on true things Mon, 26 Jan 2015 01:42:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.1 By: Norma https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-16637 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 01:42:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-16637 thank you for posting this in your blog. WOW! What a revelation of ‘hovering’ and SO graciously laid out for us to apply the Word of God to overcome this ‘hovering once and for all. Easy application steps for our every day lives.

]]> By: Sunshine https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1883 Wed, 13 Jun 2012 15:13:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1883 This is beautiful and challenging. I LOVE this post. Sunshine

]]> By: Tina https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1851 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 04:00:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1851 Dear Lara,
I saved this post for a rainy day. It is so true. Parents/mothers want to control. I realized this early in my first child’s life.
I recently read a book about parenting teenagers that I wish I had read much earlier than their teenage years. I wish I had read this book when my kids were toddlers! It is called “Losing Control and Liking it,” put out by Focus on the Family, written by Tim Sanford. You will find it here:
http://family.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/easy_find/1293363075?Ntt=Losing+Control+and+Liking+it&N=0&Ntk=keywords&action=Search&Ne=0&event=ESRCG&nav_search=1&cms=1&search=
Love,
Tina

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1788 Mon, 21 May 2012 17:11:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1788 In reply to domesticblissdiaries.

Oh girl, you are not alone. I have three kids and I still feel like I don’t know what I am doing sometimes. I wish I had all the answers for you, but alas, I don’t. However, a couple of things.

One is remember that this stage will pass. Three year olds are fiesty and figuring out that they have an opinion. Your consistency with boundaries will help — whether with a group or alone. Maybe when you are in a group setting and he acts up you could try to take him to another room for discipline. Also, just keep praying. Pray for wisdom. Pray for his heart. Just pray. God knows the wisdom you need in each situation. You will mess up — we all do! Every single day! That’s why there’s grace. Our God forgives and we get back up and be mommy again. Blessings, sister.

]]> By: domesticblissdiaries https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1786 Sun, 20 May 2012 15:19:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1786 I have an active three-year-old little boy who is obedient MOST of the time. I find that I have a harder time getting him to obey when there are a lot of people around. I also struggle when he is around both us (my husband and I) and his grandparents (either my parents or my in-laws). I’m pretty sure this is because he “gets away” with more when he’s with them.

Because he doesn’t listen as well in these circumstances, I feel like I have to raise my voice just to get him to hear me and i end up speaking more harshly out of frustration. And, when he starts acting out, I go into hover mode. I just had a tal with my husband last night about this as we had just left a wedding and I was exhausted from “hovering”. I told him that I end up looking like a “mean mommy” or, at least, one that has no control of her child.

I don’t know exactly how to remedy this situation. It doesn’t help that I’m in my mid- twenties, he is my first kid, and I have NO IDEA what I’m doing half the time….

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1780 Sat, 19 May 2012 02:35:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1780 In reply to Patti Jensen.

Oops. Hope your shin feels ok. 😉 It is so easy to want to do — hover! I can only imagine that it gets harder the older they get, because they are so independent. Praying you find great peace and even joy in releasing them to our God.

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1779 Sat, 19 May 2012 02:34:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1779 In reply to Markeitha Christian.

I really enjoyed my time in Richardson too! And yes, mothering is the hardest job I have ever done. And I don’t even have a teen yet! God has been teaching me to trust His Spirit within me especially with those gray areas. It is so hard though. Blessings in your mommy journey.

]]> By: Lara Gibson Williams https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1778 Sat, 19 May 2012 02:32:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1778 In reply to jenbutterfield.

Ha. I know what you mean. I see it on my kids faces at time, “Mom, back off.”

]]> By: Patti Jensen https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1777 Fri, 18 May 2012 22:35:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1777 OOOO>…..This was meant for me! Thank you! I am the mother of a 19 and a 22 year old and I still hover, try to control and worry. It’s bad. I know. But I am trying! I know that God has my girls in His hands, but I still try to butt in and “help” Him. Thanks for the kick in the shin…I needed it! 🙂

]]> By: Markeitha Christian https://tooverflowing.com/the-hover-mother-syndrome/#comment-1776 Fri, 18 May 2012 19:36:00 +0000 http://tooverflowing.com/?p=4490#comment-1776 Hi Lara!
Really enjoyed you last month in Richardson:-) I too have been inflicted with this “disease”. I struggle with the gray areas of mothering. An I not disciplining enough? Should I let this slide? Do my children really respect me? I also take it personal when they act up:-( I know I shouldn’t and I am praying for help with that. Thanks for this reminder that I am not required to control! Once I get that together I will feel less pressure because helicoptering over 5 children and a husband is a tough job:-)

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