Comments on: why does it matter what I wear? {a post-beach post}

By: Abigail Mae Prescott

Abigail Mae Prescott — Thu, 03 Oct 2013 07:10:00 +0000

The way you dress can actually create a good or bad impression to other people. It is indeed the first thing people judge. The way you dress also can reflect your attitude. Though it is your choice to wear anything you like, you must always remember to wear something that will create a good impression.- http://www.sweatshieldundershirt.com/

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:37:00 +0000

In reply to Diana. You are SO right, Diana. That whole Mars and Venus analogy, it's true.

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:36:00 +0000

In reply to Shelly Wildman.

Shelly, you touched on an aspect I wanted to include in this post, but I was already getting long-winded so I didn’t. But the aspect of culture. What is “appropriate” or “modest” in our culture or even in church culture may not be appropriate in another culture. I think that’s what Paul meant when he said to be all things to all people. Not offending for the sake of offending or “freedom.” It’s a tough topic. One that can only be discerned by following His lead.

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:31:00 +0000

In reply to Nina. I know what you mean about finding modest and pretty clothes. Honestly I love fashion. I enjoy expressing my personality through fashion so it's definitely a challenge at times to find things but you're right. It can be done. Blessings, Nina!

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:28:00 +0000

In reply to BMcGlothlin.

I love that you brought out the point about causing our girls to feel shame about their beauty. It can absolutely err in that direction and I pray we don’t raise a generation of young women ashamed of how God created them beautiful — even externally. So complex. I pray that we would ultimately raise a generation — boys and girls — to seek hard and continually after their God for direction on any and every decision. He’s so good and only wants good things for us. Freedom for us. Blessings, sister.

By: Lara Gibson Williams

Lara Gibson Williams — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:24:00 +0000

In reply to kendalprivette.

I’m so like that — about clothes touching me. I’ve never thought about it as feeling safe but maybe that’s it. Ha. I’m sure that God is using you to speak into the lives of those young girls. I was so insecure in middle school. I pray your girls grasp the truth of identity in Christ.

By: Diana

Diana — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 17:16:00 +0000

Really good to think about. God blessed me w/a “glimpse” into the way he wired males years ago… when a 5 year old boy asked me – using 5 year old words! – why boys get an erection when they see women’s breasts…. (It’s shocking what the human brain can process/wonder in a split second!)The answer to what brought about that physical response – in a 5 year old who didn’t even understand what was happening? “It happens to me during swimming lessons when the HS team walks by… There’s a girl with long brown hair…” (And, ladies. these girls were wearing swim team Speedo suits – that cover everything!)
Men – BOYS! – are wired different. Totally!

By: Sheila Seiler Lagrand

Sheila Seiler Lagrand — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 14:40:00 +0000

When I attended the great.big.church I served in the baptism ministry. We furnished big, navy-blue t-shirts (a keepsake, with a baptism theme) and loaner big, dark blue gym shorts for people to wear in the baptistry.

I remember one very fit, 40ish woman who took the t-shirt I offered, but shook her head when I handed her a pair of shorts, explaining she’d brought her own.

She emerged from the restroom “changing room” in spandex shorts with the ti-shirt tied in a knot over her rib cage.

Everyone has her own idea of beauty, that’s for sure!

I think that especially with teens and young women, the enticement is not so much to draw attention as it is to be part of the crowd, following the “fashion.”

By: Markeitha Christian

Markeitha Christian — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 12:48:00 +0000

Excellent post Lara. It is a heart issue. We women shouldn’t look at it as our responsibility to protect those with lustful desires by dressing modestly….we should look at it as an opportunity to protect ourselves. No matter how any woman may try to cover this up, if she is wearing skimpy clothes shes searching. She’s searching for something whether it be attention, affirmation, validation etc. we don’t need the wrong men affirming us.

By: Shelly Wildman

Shelly Wildman — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 12:24:00 +0000

In reply to Shelly Wildman. Sorry, the link doesn't work, but you get the idea. :)