During a recent* “discussion” with my man, I realized something about God. You see, I have this tendency to think I’m right when I argue. But not only that, in those not-so-lovely moments, I can convince myself that God must think I’m right. And He must be on my side. Cause He’s gotta be choosin’.
But, that’s pretty much wrong thinking. In fact I don’t think He’s on any one person’s “side”. Yes, He fights for His children. (Deut. 3:22) And yes He loves beyond human reason. (John 15:13) But ultimately, He’s on love’s side. Unity’s side. His side. (See Joshua 5:13-15)
We’re the wayward, selfish ones. We’re the ones who misunderstand and misrepresent His amazing-ness. So He’s not choosin’. He simply is. Love.
Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Ephesians 5:1-2
When the thought hit me the other night, it shut my mouth. Mostly. It gave me a different perspective. It caused me to pause and reconsider. Because if He isn’t choosing my side, then I want to get back in line with His side. The love side.
Humbling.
Fill me, Lord…
How would thinking of God this way change how we argue and fuss with others?
(Or maybe I am the only one who finds myself in these types of “discussions.”)
*I first wrote this post last May for my previous blog. But I keep coming back to this idea in my spirit. So I thought I would share.
I find this to be true when I speak to my children. How often I think, “God, did you see what that kid just did to US?” I’m thankful that he so graciously reminds me that he isn’t on my side. If he loves my children enough to extend grace to them, so should I.
So true, Kim. Thanks for that reminder.
I totally remember this post! It is a good one and I definitely need to remember this truth. Thank you for sharing what God teaches you.
You’re a sweet friend. 🙂
You speak to my soul. I totally get like this. Then when I feel like I’m responding “correctly” and he’s responding “incorrectly,” it gives me even more “rightness.” Boo! And even then it’s like, this isn’t how it’s supposed to be. I love a little humility slap in the face. God knows (He really does) how much I need it.